Love Is Most Important

Ken and RuthAnn Sullivan

Ken and RuthAnn Sullivan are the wonderful parents of five children and were highly active in the church until recently discovering troubling information that led to a crisis of faith and a very interesting meeting with a General Authority. The family resigned from the church soon thereafter, which surprised many people who expected them to be called to preside over a mission. This caused much heartache and disappointment as family members and friends looked at them with critical eyes and negativity. However, through their experience, the Sullivans learned that loving relationships are more important than the ideologies and beliefs that divide families and friendships. They are positive examples of how to re-evaluate one’s core values at the center of daily life and moving forward with optimism, love, and kindness.

The Sullivan’s inspiring and humble talk, entitled “Love Is Most Important,” is something which every bishop, stake president, mormon, and post mormon in the world should watch. The Sullivans describe their experience in a way that is safe for all people to watch, without detailing any of the troubling issues, but instead by focusing on the importance of maintaining loving relationships with family members and friends regardless of anyone’s beliefs or stance regarding mormonism. The video is well worth the time to watch considering the bridges of understanding and goodwill that it builds. The Q&A at the end is also particularly insightful.


It is the Sullivans’ sincere desire that all people would continue to cultivate relationships of love and respect for one another. As they state in their talk:

Love above ideology.

Relationships above theology.

Human connection above belief.

Love is a verb, an action, which means demonstrating understanding and compassion toward all those with whom we associate—regardless of anyone’s particular beliefs or ideologies. It means placing the virtue of kindness above our differences and being true and genuine friends to one another without judgment and without reservation. Only when we make our relationships a higher priority than our beliefs will love reign supreme in our neighborhoods, in our homes, and in our hearts.

The Sullivans’ website can be found here:

The troubling information they discovered is summarized here.

Related Link: The Truth Awakening of a General Authority

Related Link: Four Essentials for Accepting Truth

One thought on “Love Is Most Important

  1. My Wife and I watched your video last night. We found it both interesting and poignant, particularly as many of your concerns and much of your experience is similar to our own. Thank you for sharing.
    We do have a question. You don’t seem to mention what to do about a continuing faith in God and Christ or if you still consider that to be important. I understand that when people lose faith and leave the LDS church some seek other churches, some become agnostic and others atheist. There are probably other permutations as well. If you feel able to elucidate, we would love to understand where you currently stand and the thought processes that took you there.

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